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Tuesday, 16 June 2009

  • Evolving Relationships With Friends

    You could say I had the common relationship with friends during high school. One or two best friends that I would do everything with, from sharing secrets, gossip, clothes, etc. And we would share the same values, ideas, likes/dislikes, and so on. I never felt lonely, judged, or anything negative like that because I know they would always be by my side and they were. But then as last school year started, things slowly started evolving. I was the first out of our group of friends (we also had a handful of other close friends too) to get a job; the one who took school the most seriously; and I'm the most opinionated yet sensitive one of the group (I know, a bad combination). It got pretty frustrating sometimes, when all my gal pals would go out and hang while I had to work but I knew life isn't always fair and well, at least I'm earning money instead of spending it. I suppose the most difficult part was when they would eventually stop letting me know when they would do something, because I did have days off sometimes. So in short I did feel left out, but I kind of brushed it off, no big deal, I'll just have to be the one to ask if they were planning to do stuff.
    And then, another difficult situation I would often face is for them to ask me for money, or they would often suggest we go out to eat, and etc. To be honest, I don't mind, I like to spend money for enjoyment, but ever since I got a job, I've become more frugal. You know, it's easier to spend money that your parents give you because you didn't have to take time to work for it. And that would often be a misunderstanding between us. But still, I understand why they felt the way they feel, so I just let that go. We were all still the Three BFFs and going strong.

    But then, a couple months later, the Boyfriend came along.

    You can kind of guess what happens to our friendship. Well mainly between my two other friends and myself.

    I can sense they weren't a big fan of him when they met him, they thought he was pretty ugly to look at, and thought he was too touchy feely. And I admit, I did agree with them he was too touchy feely in the beginning, but once I asked him to stop, he did. All in all, he really is a sweet guy and a super nerd at heart. But that didn't change my friends' opinion of him, which I don't care, their opinion is their opinion but it would just hurt me when they would bash on him and insult him in my face. And I know he doesn't talk negatively about them or bash on them, so that I find quite unfair.

    In conclusion, my friends and I don't see eye to eye on things anymore. Whenever I'm with them, I feel like an outsider and to me, it feels like whenever I would say something, the response I would get would feel like a challenge. Thus, it just doesn't feel enjoyable to hang with them anymore. That is why I don't hang with them much anymore, and more with my boyfriend.
    Really, I know it's not a good idea to ditch your friends for just your boyfriend. I would now choose doing something with my boyfriend over hanging with my girls each and every time. And they would complain that I'm choosing him over them, big time. And I know it, and I feel like such a bad friend for doing so.
    But the reason why I don't choose to hang with them anymore is because I just feel so unwelcomed, unwanted, and challenged when I am with them. I don't think you're really supposed to always feel like that when you're meaning to have a good time with your gals.

    So I don't know. I do love my friends dearly. But it's just that I feel like they've pushed me away and I have no one else to run to but him.
    I guess that's high school and growing up. Maybe I was unlucky enough to be to first to evolve.

    BAH I can't wait until college where I could start over and just get myself out of unneccessary drama! Wah! And meet new people, har har.

Wednesday, 06 May 2009

  • A Little Late Night Journal

    It's another night before the day and in this case, another late nighter for me to go through before facing the day if I even decide to face it at all. Anyways, I can't sleep because my brain is operating at 110 mph so doing a journal, eyy that might calm it down.

    So yes, today was a really nice day, it was real warm, the afternoon was filled with sunshine, and it felt like how a day in May should feel. But one thing stood out to me in particular when I walked outside and it was just the smell
    But I don't know, from that moment, I realized how much I missed my childhood. And not only that, but the smell also reminded me of all of the past few summers and then that just brought along a chain of memories.

    It was nice, remembering how it was to wake up early in the morning with the sun shining hella bright, walking outside onto my deck to watch my mom water the garden and then taking a morning run before the sun got too hot. Then after that, I would help out in picking some veggies from our garden and preparing them for lunch later that day. And then I think I would actually go online for an hour and then come back out by lunch time to eat some fresh salad, laap (Lao meat salad with veggies XD ), and etc.

    After that I would usually call up Amy to see what she was up to that day and yay she was usually free and we'd hang out. Usually we'd go to the beach to like tan and swim and stuff and to the same places, Moore Lake or sometimes this beach by her dad's place. If we went to her dad's, well after the beach we'd hit the mall by there (it's super nice I think!) or chill at the house which I might add is freaking nice too. Then we'd come back home and end the day with a sleepover, and then like I think we'd call Tori up to see if she would want to sleepover (and it sucked that she couldn't as often as we liked, since well her parents want her home often and yeah har har, I can imagine the comments now XD )
    Okay well that was mostly last summer, but even then, that felt like a long time ago (I was a different person then)

    Otherwise, the summers before that, I remember going fishing, like ALL the time. But it was awesome because we'd go on our runabout boat and really while my parents fished most of the time, I would pretty just swim around, tan, or fish a little too. And the best part was that it was super roomy and the seats can convert into beds and stuff. Oh my god I can't wait until we pull the boat out again this summer :)
    So after swimming and soaking up the sun, I would just dry off and sit there and take in everything I saw. The air would smell like seaweed or algae. And fish but that didn't bother me at all. There would be ripples along the water, bigger ones there, smaller ones here, or else it would be as smooth as glass. A bass would occasionally jump out of the water somewhere (if my dad saw it, he'd get excited and want to move the boat to wherever it was, hoping to catch it), and the sky would slowly turn orange then eventually reddish orange and if there were some clouds, it would add some purple. It was definitely beautiful to see, the eastern skies would be darkish gray and then blends into black and on the west, it would be mixes of orange, red, purple, and fluffy sky blue. And then if it was clear, you could start to see the stars even while the sun was still out a little. The combination of the smell of the lake, the sound of birds and crickets, and the sight of the sky and rippling water; it definitely made time stand still and it was just beyond peaceful. Even then I thought about my childhood but what was different was that it connected well. I was more happy peaceful.
    Now when I think about it, I just miss it, so much. Then that leads to another thing. Just missing life then in general. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I'm dissatisfied with how life is now, really I am beyond happy with how life is going presently. It's just, if I could, I would step back in time to experience everything again, only this time, I would savor them even more.
    And how my mind worked then. Well for sure I do miss the self discipline I used to have, that saved me a lot of stress :)
    But also the kind-of romantic, daydream-like, innocent, yet strong sense of right and wrong mindset, I know I miss. Even though sometimes it would take me out of reality more than it should, it still was calming. But I know, as we get older, we change how we think, how we act, what we believe in, no matter how much we try not to sometimes.
    So really, for me, after hitting seventeen, things just seemed to go on fast forward. And I didn't really realize it until someone pushed the pause button for a minute and then I would sit there and have my jaw drop when I realize what happened. Then it would go again and I'm still awed by it all. So really, to those I might have confused or hurt or something I don't know, I have to apologize, because I know within my confusion and frustration I did lash out because, well to put it simply, mixed emotions are hard to sort out, heh.
    And yes, wow, this past winter (hehe changing subjects, sorta) was crazy! And spring too. It's just amazing, how you're not the only one who has intense and crazy emotions. It's just wow, when you think you're really doing nothing, it brings someone in closer because they think your plain ordinary-ness is just plain amazing. Woo. Hoo. No, it's kind of scary! Maybe sometimes, you can keep your feelings under control but it's a shocker when you're confronted with honest, raw emotions from another and they sure aren't keep that under control. And you can just tell that they're not planning to either.
    Now it could go both ways: it can be nice and flattering or it can be downright intimidating. Har har, it was definitely an intimidating feeling for me. After a while, just when I thought it was over, it happens again, although whew, I was more prepared :P
    Still, even to this day, I'm still kind of intimidated by the intensity. But it's rubbing off (and I don't like it, heehee)
    So yes, this will conclude this very confusing late night journal since it does kind of run all over the place and probably doesn't make sense in general. Personally I hope the length intimidated you to not read the whole thing but if so, whoopee for you (stalker! jk) I would write more but, well its 4am and oh yes, I am sleeeeeeeepy :)
    Ending on a happy note. And now, good night/morning?
     

Tuesday, 21 April 2009

  • Just A Note of Self Realization

    It’s pretty interesting to watch yourself sometimes. Things you said you’ll never do, you end up doing. Promises you made to yourself you break. You try to see the best in things but eventually you turn into a pessimist on your own and now your complaints are all that comes out of your mouth. The worst part about it is that you realize what is going on, all of this is happening yet you just sit there and let it happen. And you feel sad and complain about how everything is turning out when you had all the power in the world to change it and even prevent it. It doesn’t matter what’s going on at home, it’s not under my control and I should‘ve accepted that; it doesn’t matter that my grades are slipping, I let it happen no matter what excuse I could make; it doesn’t matter that some dislike me, I am the one who drifted away and let my negativity get in the way; and this whole thing doesn’t matter to anyone else; because it’s my own battle I created and it’s my own to fight.
    But if there is one positive thing that comes out of all of this, it’s that tiny little thing called hope and perseverance; always had it in every situation before, it’s about time to use it again. I know in the end things will turn out okay. But only if I fight my battles right, if I do at all. I just hope there is enough perseverance in me that I’ll make things turn out okay.

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